We Meet By Choice And Not By Chance

Relationships are born and not made. It is impossible to plan and execute a relationship. It just happens. People do not meet each other by chance. It is already written somewhere, probably a choice the soul makes. The soul has its own way of expressing its desires and acquiring what it wants.

A relationship may not necessarily return what you had wanted out of it. But if you would just let it happen, and wait patiently, giving all the time it needs to evolve; it may turn out to be the most brilliant of surprises. 

Selfless, unconditional love alone returns bliss. There is a big difference between being in love and possessing something you love.

“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up, because if you pick it up it dies and ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. It is about appreciation.” -Osho.

Not being able to be with a person you love dearly, will certainly cause pain. But the deepest and truest of connections is not physical…It is from soul to soul. Real love is not felt when you are close together. Real love is when, even at unreachable distance you could feel the connection, without distortions you hear the voice, and realize the wounds in your heart caused by the pain of separation, slowly being filled with bliss. 

It is the void that is left behind when someone very dear to us leaves, that hurts the most. Those who experience this void and pain, often lift their hand and feel the void as if the person is still there. Not finding the person there, can increase the pain. Understand that physical closeness is just one of the possibilities of love. Look beyond physical closeness and realize how deep your love really is. Explore the unexplored dimensions of your love. 

Love never hurts. There is no pain associated with love. Love is meant to give you happiness and soul filling bliss. Separation is painful. Pain is inevitable. But suffering is not. In an article about Suffering and Pain posted in www.speakingtree.in, the writer said “Pain is inevitable. But suffering is a choice.” Transform the pain to unstained love. Tap the energy you spend suffering and utilize it for activities which would heal your heart. 

Pain can take on various expressions. Listen to songs which you can sing along. Try to dance your pain out. Try painting, drawing, sketching, cooking or gardening. Anything creative can ease the pain. The best medicine you can have is to talk about your pain to someone who can understand you and be a good listener. Often writing down your feelings will also help.  Always be engaged and keep your mind busy with positive and happy thoughts. Soon, you will learn that being happy is actually very easy. That is when your love takes on a new face. It stops hurting to be in love. Missing someone will not exhaust you anymore. It will only make you feel more fortunate for having met someone worth missing and loving. Every morning, you wake up with a smile, feeling thankful for such a beautiful soul warming love. The void ceases to be a cause of pain, and becomes the space where you actually feel the love and store it. 

Life is beautiful. Love, is what makes it beautiful. Trust your soul, trust your love, trust the universe; wait for the relationship to evolve. Above all, if you believe in God, trust Him and surrender unto Him. 

“Though the mills of God grind slowly;
Yet they grind exceeding small;
Though with patience he stands waiting,
With exactness grinds he all.”

                               -Henry Wadsworth Longfellow 

With love

Athma...The soul within…